"Marriages are made in heaven. But to arrange it, pass through the hell..!"
As said by everyone, marriages not only make a beginning of new life, but also gives new responsibilities. People who enjoy every inch of "batchelorhood" may not accept this statement, but how long they can remain bachelors!! after all a loving one/heart is required at some part of life. Cannot expect a vehicle (of life) run on a single tyre all time...!!
Coming back to matter: Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage.., whatever the mode of marriage may be, there should be "love" seasoned with "trust" in both the individuals. If marriage is just for passion and lust, probably the Indian culture would not have got its strong roots compared to western cultures, where marriage happens for "satisfaction" and ends in "divorce" and "compensation"...!. We Indians still believe the sacred values of marriage and thereby follow it to whole life...
Ages before when there was a scenario where bride never used to see face of groom or vice-versa until "that day" are gone and even arranged marriages have courtships and exchange of "sweet moments". With the advent of latest technology, people might afford to miss their close friends, but not their "fiancees"..!!. Now all the marriages (except of few exceptions..) happen with mutual consent of boy and girl.
Arrange marriage has its own benefits. At first, if wife creates a problem then husband can blame openly to everyone and if husband does a problem, same thing can be done by wife (I am joking, but fact is love marriages lack this since couple have to adjust among themselves because same "everyone" will blame the couples ("it was your choice", "why did you marry him/her if you didn't know about him/her" are common sentences fired..). Arrange marriages do have freedom to some extent as couples are well understanding each other limitations and may help each other at some moment. But Love marriage might cause a rift if little "misunderstand"ing happens, often couples blaming among themselves for taking "foolish "decision" (but few exceptions, couples who are "Love" marriaged have proved themselves best against "Arranged" ones..)
Another benefit of "Love marriage" is no "Dowry" problem, which can be sorted out if girl is really strong. If boy loves and marries a girl, he (if he has truly loved the girl..) will not dare to ask dowry. If girl is earning and has her own income, she can stand on her own feet (In arranged marriages, rarely marriage happens without a dowry and here girl has rights to ask new husband to feed her because he ate "Dowry" before..!!). Arranged marriages suck out "blood" from girls family (by the time band-bhaaja and bidaai ends..), but a "love marriage" can be completed in a "registration office"..!
Above examples are just few cases on how "Our Society" runs on tracks of "Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage", but whatever the case is, the marriages can turn successful if there is proper understanding between couples. In the days of modernization where people accept western culture but forget their own roots, both arrange and love marriages should reap benefits to both family and society from which a healthy nation rises.
Following blog is for Sony Entertainment Television and IndiBlogger sponsored topic "Love Marriage ya Arranged Marriage" IndiBlogger contest. Please visit Facebook's link: www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange and know much more about this...
As said by everyone, marriages not only make a beginning of new life, but also gives new responsibilities. People who enjoy every inch of "batchelorhood" may not accept this statement, but how long they can remain bachelors!! after all a loving one/heart is required at some part of life. Cannot expect a vehicle (of life) run on a single tyre all time...!!
Coming back to matter: Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage.., whatever the mode of marriage may be, there should be "love" seasoned with "trust" in both the individuals. If marriage is just for passion and lust, probably the Indian culture would not have got its strong roots compared to western cultures, where marriage happens for "satisfaction" and ends in "divorce" and "compensation"...!. We Indians still believe the sacred values of marriage and thereby follow it to whole life...
Ages before when there was a scenario where bride never used to see face of groom or vice-versa until "that day" are gone and even arranged marriages have courtships and exchange of "sweet moments". With the advent of latest technology, people might afford to miss their close friends, but not their "fiancees"..!!. Now all the marriages (except of few exceptions..) happen with mutual consent of boy and girl.
Arrange marriage has its own benefits. At first, if wife creates a problem then husband can blame openly to everyone and if husband does a problem, same thing can be done by wife (I am joking, but fact is love marriages lack this since couple have to adjust among themselves because same "everyone" will blame the couples ("it was your choice", "why did you marry him/her if you didn't know about him/her" are common sentences fired..). Arrange marriages do have freedom to some extent as couples are well understanding each other limitations and may help each other at some moment. But Love marriage might cause a rift if little "misunderstand"ing happens, often couples blaming among themselves for taking "foolish "decision" (but few exceptions, couples who are "Love" marriaged have proved themselves best against "Arranged" ones..)
Another benefit of "Love marriage" is no "Dowry" problem, which can be sorted out if girl is really strong. If boy loves and marries a girl, he (if he has truly loved the girl..) will not dare to ask dowry. If girl is earning and has her own income, she can stand on her own feet (In arranged marriages, rarely marriage happens without a dowry and here girl has rights to ask new husband to feed her because he ate "Dowry" before..!!). Arranged marriages suck out "blood" from girls family (by the time band-bhaaja and bidaai ends..), but a "love marriage" can be completed in a "registration office"..!
Above examples are just few cases on how "Our Society" runs on tracks of "Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage", but whatever the case is, the marriages can turn successful if there is proper understanding between couples. In the days of modernization where people accept western culture but forget their own roots, both arrange and love marriages should reap benefits to both family and society from which a healthy nation rises.
Following blog is for Sony Entertainment Television and IndiBlogger sponsored topic "Love Marriage ya Arranged Marriage" IndiBlogger contest. Please visit Facebook's link: www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange and know much more about this...
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